Thursday, March 28, 2013

My mom arrives

My mom made it, exhausted from no sleep on the plane, a crying baby the whole flight!  Aidan came to help welcome her, we all made a sign that said Mom & Grama on it.  
Mine as well expose her right away to Chinese foods.  I thought pretty mild.  Fried fish, fried shrimp, fried wings,see sounds American so far.  And then radish dish, eggplant diss, garlic broccoli.  Two days later and that restaurant is closed and emptied out.  I wondered how they stayed in business when they opened after 5pm.  
She was up before the kids, but knows how to stay quiet.  So she walked them to school with me.  Aidan thought if he didn't wear his uniform he wouldn't have to go to school.  Smart, but it didn't work.  
We headed to Qienmen shopping street.  When she made her first purchase I realized I forgot to go to the bank!  So we wasted a lot of time trying to ask where there was a bank/ATM.  Those words are not universal.  They call ATM a CRS (cash revolving system).  I got us meat on a stick for lunch.  It was too spicy for her.  Followed by Haw on a stick and golden orange on a stick.   She was successfull  on finding a winter and spring coat!  I lent her my hat and either allergies or polution, I ended up with a horrible sinus headache.  It was late, we would never make it back on time by bus to pick the boys up from school.  So we took a taxi, without having the address or knowing how to say it, except for the road.  I just made sure to be on the side of the road heading back home.  I pointed straight and he was humored enough to drive us.  I feared him saying no and get out.  So we made it, 25 min taxi ride for $5 usd, we got to school, just as Aidan's class was coming out.  Close.
Dinner was some other favorites at Porridge.  The boys got their multi pink, red & purple porridge, chinese pizza as I call them, meat enclosed in a dumpling like crust pan fried.  Tofu rolls with veggitables inside, cold cooked spinach with garlic and peanuts, yaki soba type of noodle.  
Day two, more shopping at the Haggler alley.  We got a good morning squish on the bus.  At the stop before ours a guy couldn't get out in time.  This had my mom freaking out.   We made it out unharmed.  I can't turn down not going into a 10rmb store, just like I can't turn down going into a dollar store.  So bought a slap wrist watch here, a hair clip there.  
I took her into the massive building for fish and meats.  She was disgusted by the smell and sights.  She did not care for the small stalls of shopping and asked if all the shopping is like this.  Sort of, if you want it cheap.  The large numbers don't freak me out so much anymore, her eyes get so big, then I have to tell her it was only $20usd.  Oh.  She wanted more normal food for lunch, so we had Big Macs.  
Her impression so far?  Dirty, crazy crossing the streets, and it  doesn't look safe anywhere.  She asked me is there any part of town that is good.  I said we are in a good part of town, it all looks like this.  

Saturday, March 23, 2013

Dame desu

     Wednesday afternoon, when all that remained of the snow was water, I took the bus back to the haggling street to get the wooden mooncake mold I saw the previous day.  Not that I intend to actually make mooncakes with them.  I'd rather also get the modern mooncake mold of plastic with interchangable plates, haven't seen any of those yet though.  I just want it to hang on my wall.  I also picked up a chinese fermenting pot.  Pretty proud of my haggling abilities with out knowing how to speak the language.  This is the first day I got asked multiple times what country I was from.  One guy says, I think America is rich, everyone is rich there.  I said no, there are a lot of poor people there  too, people without jobs and kurtly left his shop.  Then I finally saw someone selling DVD's, granted they were only Chinese flicks, but I found some of the kids favorite shows.  The lady closest to the opened suitcases was selling food, she gave me the big dame(bad) sign with her fingers.  I went to a shop 2 stores down, the guy spoke English and told me the price.  I guess she wasn't really looking for a sale.  Gee if you don't want to sell to foreigners don't sit next to a tourist destination.
     Thursday my in-laws went shopping for a new door, so they dropped my off in the garden art sculpture area, very cool, very asian themed(go figure), and very heavy.  I think you could make your own wall picture out of  styrofoam and coat in cement possibly and get the same effect without having to heft it home.  I really wanted to take a picture, but I don't think it was really allowed since they are practically following you around.  Either hoping you buy something or so you don't touch and break something.
       Then we embarked on an hour plus goose chase on several bus transfers to try and find a shopping place my mother-in-law remembered.  It's not there, or we didn't find it.  So we went to lunch.  Got me some meat(lamb) on a stick and spicy starch stuff.  Think cloudy white gelatin, made from starches and cut up like tofu cubes.  Also some pickled peanuts and homemade noodles.  Then we took a taxi back to the huge mall we went to before.  We didn't have much time, but I did find a cute green hat for Wensen.
       Friday we went to the supermarket to get some food.  I am not a fan of the asian pear/apple pear. I like a normal pear and a normal apple, preferably northern spry.  Tried on some pants to see if I could figure out what size I would be.  Not helpful in the way I've got thighs and they do not.  So yes I fit in the XXL size, but it was not pretty.  I did see some elastic waist pants with wide legs(for old people), the sales girl shook her head no.  Just because they would've fit(I didn't try), I don't want pants that badly.  They have a lot of interesting looking chapsticks.  One showed a picture of hyacinth, my favorite flower, unfortunately I it didn't smell like that at all upon buying.
      Saturday had a higher high temp than Friday, but it did not reach it, so I froze when we went to the park.  But the kids had a grand time, making friends.  Normally I always tell the boys to play with kids their own size, but the first kids there where bigger.  2 boys and a girl and they were very sweet to the boys.  My boys throwing their hats around.  The big kids picking them up and dusting them off and sticking them back on their heads.  2 of the them ended up living in the building next to ours so they walked with us home.   I was enjoying reading my own book, as they are pretty contained in this corner of a park.  Ethan ran up to me saying even the adults are nice, someone gave him a wet wipe.  Ah my children, messy.  Later a little boy smaller than Aidan let him play with his shovel and pail in the sand.  All the kids love to play in the sand, but it really grosses me out.  I've seen kids pee in it.  And before cat poop from the homeless animals.  As soon as we get home, wash hands and use the nail brush.
        Ethan for the past week has been complaining of a tummy ache.  Normally he tells us after he's had 2 yogurt juice boxes, so I think it's drinking too much yogurt at once.  Today Aidan also had a tummy ache.  I don't know, it could be anything.  Too much yogurt, hands in your mouth, the water, something you ate at school, gotta go, eating the seeds of the golden orange?  Drink some tea.
        This afternoon, a small stage was put up outside, sponsored by a kids clothing brand.  It was for kids, they did some games, gave some prizes.  Ethan was so brave to volunteer for a race, he won a bunny to paint.  Aidan volunteered to do a crawl through a tube race and won the same.  They painted them as soon as we got back.  Ethan was gracious enough to let Wensen finish painting the rest of his.  Aidan's looked like a 3 year old painted it.  My mother-in-law washed his all off.  Really, you don't destroy a kids art.
     Speaking of art, so they send these worksheets home, sometimes to say they studied the difference between boy vs girl, so over it with your kids, sign it and make any comments on what they said when you looked at this sheet together.  Or a picture of a hand that the kids colored then the parent is to sign and write how to keep the kids hands safe.  Really?  Some of it is real artwork like pasted flowers.  I'm not signing it to send back, artwork goes on the fridge.  My mother -in-law took it all down, you sign, send back.  I said no, they only want to hold it until the end of the semester and send it all back at once.  What will I do then, throw it away.  I want to enjoy it, it goes on the fridge.
      So I guess our school is well known.  I was told a singers kid went there last year and now a kid of a Beijing soccer player.  Huh.  No wonder they are about the appearance.  Everyday when we pick them up, Aidan is usually doing the potty dance, I immediately go for the nearest tree.  I asked if they could have him go the bathroom before he puts his coat on.  they say they do, but they drink so much water, 1 cup every 15 minutes.





Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Snow beautiful!

     What a wonderful wintery Wednesday!  The boys wanted to stay home from school to play in the snow.  Sorry boys, off you go.  But at least Aidan didn't cry until we got to the door of the school.  Everyone was out taking pictures of the snow or their kids in the snow, with their dog dressed up trailing behind them.  
Nice clean white snow, sparkly in the morning sun, makes you smile.  Everyone is smiling.  The apartment workers are out in full force outside of their buildings to shovel or sweep the snow away with their bamboo brooms.  I've seen homemade ladders from trees being used and homemade brooms from the branches of the bamboo trees.  






























Chipmunck anyone?

St. Patty's Day passed without any flair.  We even ate breakfast at McDonald's, the poor kids wanted to get a happy meal(for the toy).  No shamrock shake to celebrate.  Well at least we did have cabbage in one of our lunch dishes.
Monday I went out by myself to the Chairman gate shopping street and went the easy way that I know the bus passes.  Before I even got there, I got sidetracked.  I saw a big supermarket, so I got off, 4 stops into my journey.  It was Xi Lang Lang(Pleasant goat and Big Bad Wolf) jackpot.  I got shopping bags, comic books, easy reader books, bowls and plates in this theme.  So now I had to lug my shopping bag around while I walked around.  This counts as exercise right?
Took my sweet time looking around not buying anything.  Can't wait to get back on Monday and take my mom there.  But I have got to remember to pack one of the kids shirts to measure sizes.  The clothing sizes are not consistant as well several different sizes are used.  Like 4,5,6 vs 56, 60, 160.  I can't remember what size they are.  Shoes are just as confusing.  There are so many cute kid shoes, but I dare not by them yet, because I can never remember what size they are.  My mother-in-law error on the side of I'll grow in them in a couple of years.  I want them to fit so they don't fall on their face.
There are a lot of street vendors, from breakfast sandwiches, haw on a stick to pineapple carts.  Sometimes there will be 4 pineapple carts lined up on one corner.  I never think about how they got there, until I see one pull up or leave and they throw a heavy dirty looking drop cloth over the already cut up pineapples.  Gross, not all use plastic bags to individually wrap them.
Today I went by myself to the haggler alley close to our house and got a pair of those lenseless glasses!  More for joke.  You see a lot more hats here than you do back home.  I think Asian's in general wear them more, since they are out walking or waiting in the sun and not driving around in air conditioned cars.  So I'm seeing a lot of cute hats.  I had to pick one up with a big ant on it, hopping it would fit Aidan.   Yes, it does.  Trying to find cute big boy hats, they all seem to be in the color block of black, gray, brown, and dark blue.  I did find a colorful one, but it had a saying on it about death, that I didn't find kid appropriate.
I'm still surprised at all the Japanese stuff I find here.  I found a rotating sushi bar that I can't wait to go to.  I went to the Japanese restaurant in Tessco's and got Katsudon, served with miso and cukes.  Yum.  At malls, the stores I gravitate to, all cutsie and knick-knacky are all Japanese wares.  Even at the toy store most of the cool toys, trains, are from Japan.  And lots of Totoro!  Unfortunately I can't justify buying myself a big 'ol Totoro,  packing space will be at a premium.    
First time the youngest actually wet the bed since being off of diapers for about 2 months.  Bad thing, he wasn't in his bed with the pad protector.  No, he was in my bed, waiting for someone to get out of the bathroom at some ungodly  hour.  So the rest of the night(morning) I slept on the couch.  It was actually must more comfortable then my bed.
On the bus I've noticed old men have walnuts in their hands.  I finally figured out they are fake nuts and they are using like an exercise ball.  I was confused because they eat a lot of different seeds and nuts.  They are always spitting the shells all over the ground, elevator or bus.  
At the pet booth besides your little birds and fish, they have lots of turtles from half dollar size to palm sized, chipmunks and salamander/newts in the colors of black, white and yellow.  Can you imagine if our chipmunk got loose in your house?!?  See how lucky we are, we can get free chipmunks in the Midwest.  And they are already trained, because they never leave.  Who really says I want a chipmunck as a pet? 
It's always fun to go to the grocery store.  We stocked up a weeks supply of apple, strawberry and blueberry yogurt drink boxes for the boys.  We wandered over by the fish tanks and watched them pull the big (bull) frogs out of the tanks and stuff them in a plastic bag.  It's more a catch it your self, so we watched a few women catch their fish, one was wildly thrashing around in the net and she beat it several times against the wall to kill it.  Ethan now pretends to kill fish by whacking his toys against the walls and furniture.  





                                                                Katsudon

                                                                    Everyone is enjoying the fake glasses!

Friday, March 15, 2013

Palindrome days


Our plans for Saturday were blown apart by the wind.  We had planned to go out and about, indoors due to smog.  However the wind was blowing so strongly that garbage was flying past the 18th floor on our walk up the stairs.  After the stairwell my eyes and nose itched with dust blowing in through  the cracks in the windows.  
Sunday we road a double decker bus.  Fun, the boys got to sit up front for a few stops before we got off at the end of the line and walked to Aunt & Uncle's house for lunch.  
Monday my mother-in-law took me shopping.   She took me a very complicated way involving several bus transfers that I'll never remember.  I know an easier way to get to the other side of the Chairman East/West gate shopping streets.  Prices are marked, so this is a place I can take my mom all by myself.  I got golden oranges on a stick instead of my favorite haw on a stick.  Yum!  I got 2 more coats.  So the coat I just got came in two colors, I opted for the teal, since I have a lot of orangish coats.   My mother-in-law said the blue is an old person color.  Thank goodness that color only came in 4x & 5x.  My usual 2X was too small in the arms, so I tried the 3X in the teal and perfect fit.  She still wanted me to get the orange and told me to get the 4X., solely to get the orange color.  What?   I don't think it's a color but style that makes it for old or young.   So far that is 3 coats this trip.  There are just so many cute coats!  I really can't buy too any more.  Maybe another spring one?
It's not fair that my size 9, perfectly normal in the US is LL of sumer shoes(toes sticks off the front, heals off the back) only in Japan, and 250 in China.  There are a few sizes bigger than 250, but good luck trying to find them and not in many styles.  But at least I can find some closed toe shoes here.
Tuesday was our first rain.  They've been preparing the ground for spring by watering the shrubs.  I can see tiny buds on the trees.  Spring is just around the corner.  
We were back to square one on Monday with Aidan and school.  I was told he cried on and off all day.  Today he was a big boy and walked his weepy self in.  Wensen is a sweetheart and is giving kisses.  He got very embarrassed when I asked who he is kissing.  Ethan must be bored, he is leaving the classroom,  going out into the hall and the teacher doesn't know where he is.  Yesterday he turned on all the bathroom faucets and left them on.  I was surprised how loving the teachers are here, or maybe it's our school.  They kiss and hug the children.  For rewards they blow loud kisses to the kids.  Huh.
Everyday one of my in-laws accompanies me to pick up my children.  And everyday they think they should be the first face my child should see.  Hello mother here!  But my mother-in-law thinks it's the teacher's fault they are not watching the kids.  She says my kids think for themselves.  That made me feel better.
Every day, twice a day it's a struggle to brush Wensen's teeth.  I told him, "If you can't brush your teeth, I will brush your teeth for you"  In my head popped, If you can't afford a lawyer, one will be appointed for you, guess I watch to many cop TV shows.   I was telling the Michigan teacher how he hates brushing.  He says most of his kids have black stumps in their mouth, because the thought it why brush, baby teeth will fall out anyway.  Poor kids.
        I think it's funny seeing old people wear young people clothes.  It must be because they get the clothes cheap, so they wear it.  I saw an older lady wearing a coat that looked like a strapless dress, fleshy colored on top and scallop bottom.  Weird.  And I saw a whole bunch of lensless fashion glasses at the store.  Debating if I want one.
   My mother-in-law and I went to lunch and I was so thirsty, so I ordered the lemon tea.  It was hot water with lemon in.  We asked where the tea was, that is the tea.  What a rip off.  Ended up burning my tongue on it.  The big lump sugar didn't help sooth it, like regular granuals will when put on immediately.  Later that afternoon, I was sucking on a carmel and poof,  away went my burnt tongue!
More on shopping, my mother-in-law thinks it's a good buy if they mark it down.  Example coat  went from 600rmb to 400 rmb, good buy.  But a coat for 350 rmb not on sale, not a good buy.  Totally not on if you like it or if it's less, only about what is on sale.  Huh?  Sometimes I pick something out and she tells me no, it's for old people.  My husband knows this about me, he tells me to look around, if there are old people looking at the same rack(there always are), then walk away.  
I am looking for some character kid plates, she wanted me to by these plain plates, because they were cheap.  No thank you.  I've been that route before, buy something because it's cheap, then I still go buy the thing I actually want and ended up spending more.  
I finally took my friend Carmen's advise and watched "Sherlock" the British drama series.  It's season is 3 shows of 1.5hrs.  I'm hooked, it's hilarious.  Course could be because I must have a British sense of humor, I always love those shows, like "Keeping Up Appearances", "Mr. Bean",  and "Are You Being Served".


                                                              Golden orange on a stick

                                                            Chairman's gate shopping street

   
                                                                                     Inside a mall
                                            Cool cow

                      The Monkey king



                     Bronner's Beijing?   No, just the outside.



Friday, March 8, 2013

Pretty in Pink

Would you eat at this restaurant?  The Top Best Jump Chicken serves:  exploding chicken(from the picture think kiev not spicy), knee cartilage, squid neck and scud.  Not me.  Instead you could try Papa Made Curry King.  
  There are a ton of stray cats and dogs.  The dogs look better off than the cats.  They have a variety of dog breeds as pets, unlike Japan and their foxish dog.  I've only seen 1 dog on a leash so far.  Other dogs just walk ahead of their owners.  So it's hard to know if some are pets or strays.  I've never seen any dogs being petted.  I've seen  stray dogs cross the street by them self waiting for a red light at the cross walk.  
Butting boys in pink is not unusual here.  No wonder my mother-in-law is always getting the boys things with pink in it.  
From the bus I've seen a lady at 3pm in her pj's taking her dog out, a Mr. Miyagi double, ping pong tables at a park (you bring your own net), children chewing on a foot of sugar cane.  I have seen 2 girls wearing fake glasses.  Glasses minus the lenses.  Is this a fashion statement?  
   The streets are a dangerous place here.  Drivers driving around pot holes, honking at people walking, pedal bikes, (quiet) electric bikes and 3 wheeled carts.  I think of all these old people who grew up  when the streets were filled with only walkers and bikes.    Everyone walks through the traffic when it's moving to get to the other side.   QI hope my kids don't try to do this when we get back home.  There are a lot of  kid seats on bikes.  Not with any foot holds or straps to hold them in either.  A little kid just holding on bouncing down the street.  Or standing on a moped in front of the driver with their hands stuck in the hand warmer handle bars.   These kids have amazing balance.  I fear for their safety.
Been looking for a normal sized container of raisins instead of the huge craisin sized bag you get from Sams.  So I found one and it looked like they were sugar coated.  I almost bought some salted dried fruits.  So I turned it over and low and behold there was English.  Aspartame, they put aspartame on the raisins.  What is wrong with them.  Aren't raisins supposed to be sweetened the way nature intended them?  I was appalled.  And I've wanted to buy gum, but it's very hard to find a sugar gum now that doesn't have aspartame added to it.   Remember all the soldiers that got sick from the Diet pop.  Well aspartame put into your 98.6 mouth just releases all those nasty chemicals right into your head.   Wow I'm getting older and starting to get scared about how unhealthy food is today.   The way food is genetically altered.  The Jetson's don't seem to far off on their dinner capsules.
I've been watching some TV.  At first it was to write down which channels are kids shows.  Then I finished my Korean drama I was watching back home with subtitles, here no English subtitles but I got the gist of it.   I watched a Taiwanese movie.  I loved the 2nd Pink Panther movie.  It's been years since I saw the first one and I think the 2nd was much better, I laughed so hard.   I found a channel that shows a lot of nature or human plant shows and glad to see the boys are enjoying it(I was raised on Marty Stouffer), even though it's in Chinese.  Sometimes I can tell them all about  what we are watching.  Like the episode on volcanoes.  The boys asked me how I knew so much.  Today they had some sky burial of some possibly Himalayan type place.  Thankfully they did not show everything, what I gather is they hack up the body for the vultures.  Gross. Some channels have English at certain times of the day.  I've gotten hooked on a Canadian TV show Being Erica, started in 2009 and ran 4 seasons.  Problem is it ends at midnight.  So I need more sleep.    
      One of the phrases in a Chinese app I downloaded was "He did not pay his debt and disappeared." Scary.  So this happens so regularly they thought it was a necessary to learn this phrase?

Full Friday

     After talking with a dear friend, I got a late start to lunch.  I planned to go to McDonalds maybe.  So when I started to get ready at 11:30 to go out.  My mother-in-law asked if I was eating there.  No, I'll go out to McDonalds.  Two seconds later, you eat here, I cook big shrimp.  I saw them thawing, but thought for dinner.  Okay, I'll eat lunch here.  
After lunch in the consecutive day of 380+ smog I go to the bus stop.  It was so hot, I was wearing a spring jacket unzipped.  The bus stop signs were gone, but the slab of cement was still there and there people waited.  The bus however did not stop.  We watched it go down the street and stop.  So we all walked down there, we couldn't see where the new location behind a big truck.  This is the first time I've seen a friendly foreigner.  He actually said hi.  
The bus (my favorite #31) was packed full, but not over packed.  I road it down to the fancy mall.  I wanted to check out their supermarket in the basement by the food court.  This was the import mother load.  But they didn't have dill either.  I want dill to make some dilly beans.  I did see some kids stainless steel drink vessels.  I was going to go with plastic, but as most of the china made stuff doesn't list a plastic #, some say PP or PC.  What is that?  So I did some research and even BPA free can leach more chemicals than non-BPA.  Go figure, it's not about the plastic base, it's the un-named, un-known chemicals they add.  So I don't know if I really want them to have the plastic now.      
Walking beyond the food court they had a hall full of restaurants, I found Dairy Queen, Pizza Hut and Burger King(which is more expensive than McDonalds).  In the window of one restaurant were several phrases, this one caught my eye:  "You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair."
        I found  a purse I love by Oilily.  I think it's a European company.  But 700 rmb, yikes.  Maybe I'll be lucky and find it at a cheaper mall?  
       By the time I came back to the surface, it had cooled so I had to button up.  I had plenty of time so I decided to walk next door to Burberry.  Wow.    Upon entry I was spoken to in English and then followed by my guide around the store.  I felt so uncomfortable, I got outta there.  And noticed a huge empty birdcage across the street.  I had to take a picture.
       It was 3 pm and I wanted to get back.  Good thing because the first bus was so full there were coat jackets sticking out of the door.  Good thing I didn't try to squeeze in, I might have been in the door.  So I waited for the next bus and made sure I got toward the head of the herd so I would be in the bus and not the door.  It was a very packed bus!  When I was waiting for the bus an ambulance was trying to go by.  Try because the cars were trying to get out of the way and the cars going the opposite direction wanted to pull Ues right in front of it. Now they can do U-turns there normally, but I thought ambulance & police sirens were universal for get out of my way.
Very happy to be off the bus.  As I was walking into the apartment complex I see a sign with several languages, one being English that said "all foreigners living in the area need to register with the local police".  Good thing I'm just visiting.  



Huge birdcage